Missing Christmas

I have decided not to go to Sacramento for Christmas. The reason is that my Mom, who is 92 has pneumonia and a cold. The plan was for Frank and I and Katie and Bruce to stay with her.  Also, my sister Susan has a cold. The whole family was together last Sunday to celebrate my Mom's birthday. So they potentially were exposed. It is very important that I be in good health so that I can have the chemotherapy and tolerate it. If I were to be exposed to this, I could be harboring it when I have my chemo on Tuesday. Since the chemo is hard on the immune system, I could get very sick from a virus that is just annoying to someone else.
We also don't want Frank to get the cold. Because he would then expose me.
I ran this scenario by the oncologist's nurse. She agreed that it would be prudent to not go. She pointed out that it is important to get the chemo in so that I will be able to have next Christmas with the family.   My priority is the cancer treatment and being healthy for Katie and Bruce when the baby is born at the end of January.
Of course Im sad. Christmas is just such a wonderful time for all of us. Also, I will miss the family baby shower for Katie and Bruce and Baby Binn.
However  I did get to go to the San Francisco shower. I also had a wonderful weekend with Katie and Bruce.
I saw a good part of the family on Thanksgiving, and also on my last trip to Sacramento just before the cancer was discovered.
So, that's that. No use crying over something that shouldn't be changed.