Advanced Health Care Directive

One of the things that happens when someone is admitted to the hospital or has any contact with with a good health care system is that they are asked if they have an advance health care directive. They want to have it on file.  Most people know that an advanced directive is instructions about what you want if you are incapacitated and unable to make decisions for yourself. 
Frank and I have one. But it is very old.  I got online yesterday and pulled one up from the State of California website. Here is the link: Advance Health Care Directive.  
Today we are going to fill out a new one and have our neighbor's witness it.  I don't have much emotion about this. It is just something everyone should do. It would ease the burden of loved ones who have to make decisions during a very trying time. 
Frank and I also have set up a cremation plan. When we pass our loved ones can simply call the number and they will come and take our remains, and cremate them and bury the ashes at sea. This is what we did with Mike. We were able to ask him if that was all right while he was still lucid. And he said yes. We made other decisions for Mike at the end of his life that we feel were what he would want. But he didn't have an advance directive. We didn't let them do anything that would prolong his life, including tube feedings and IV's. We did keep him medicated to relieve pain, even though that rendered him unconscious until he died. We were able to say our good byes a few days before he died when he was still somewhat lucid.
We feel that a memorial service does not need a body present. For our spirits are free once we leave our bodies. We had a lovely memorial for Mike at our home, with pictures of him around and a slide show I made on the TV. We never went to a funeral home. You can rest assured that I will be there in spirit when my time comes. 
Mike has been around us a lot while we adjust to his passing.  Everyone has their own style of dying. No one is right or wrong.